Alright your turn to talk.
I have lots of posts in my head and a few in the drafts folder but I also have zero time to finish them and even less energy so I am turning the floor over to you, ask me anything, well almost anything and over the next week when I have time I will answer them. Don't be shy, there are a lot of readers here who rarely speak up, well now is your chance.
Leave a question in the comments of this post about whatever it is you have been wanting to ask. I allow anonymous comments so you don't even have to tell me who you are. Play nice though, I am inviting you into my life and if you don't want to play nice I will not want to play with you.
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Saturday, June 12, 2010
Thursday, June 3, 2010
a kick
So I started the attachment challenge on Sunday and I must say that if you are counting minute and hugs I have failed miserably but if you count moments, cuddles, conversations and time together I am doing really well.
Lat week I was feeling pretty sorry for myself and pretty down about the world, no biggie, it happens. I needed a kick in the butt to get moving back to therapeutic parenting and this attachment challenge has done just that. It has reminded me to be more intentional when I interact with my kids, to slow down and interact with them as needed and to take a REALLY DEEP BREATH when they are pushing my buttons so that they can watch the fireworks.
We have had a really busy week and I do not really even have time to be writing let alone reading blogs. I will not even get into all the the things that were on but it is almost all done and then I can resume breathing. The boys and I are going camping tomorrow for the weekend and then it will be back to school and the 6 million things that need to happen before the end of the month including Calvin's birthday.
I am going to keep on the path of the attachment challenge but how I am going to do that will have to wait until next week because I have bags to pack and sleeping bags to locate and coolers to fill.
By the way there is a new little button over there on the left, it is a cute little boy, my nephew and his mama, my sister ( who is amazing and fabulous) is trying to get a grant for her daycare so if you cold click the vote button and go vote once a day that would be fabulous. I know that the button is cut off, I played with it but I can not get it all there.... I have no idea why and given that time is slipping through my fingers this week I have given up, the link works, click away please.
Lat week I was feeling pretty sorry for myself and pretty down about the world, no biggie, it happens. I needed a kick in the butt to get moving back to therapeutic parenting and this attachment challenge has done just that. It has reminded me to be more intentional when I interact with my kids, to slow down and interact with them as needed and to take a REALLY DEEP BREATH when they are pushing my buttons so that they can watch the fireworks.
We have had a really busy week and I do not really even have time to be writing let alone reading blogs. I will not even get into all the the things that were on but it is almost all done and then I can resume breathing. The boys and I are going camping tomorrow for the weekend and then it will be back to school and the 6 million things that need to happen before the end of the month including Calvin's birthday.
I am going to keep on the path of the attachment challenge but how I am going to do that will have to wait until next week because I have bags to pack and sleeping bags to locate and coolers to fill.
By the way there is a new little button over there on the left, it is a cute little boy, my nephew and his mama, my sister ( who is amazing and fabulous) is trying to get a grant for her daycare so if you cold click the vote button and go vote once a day that would be fabulous. I know that the button is cut off, I played with it but I can not get it all there.... I have no idea why and given that time is slipping through my fingers this week I have given up, the link works, click away please.
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
Helpless
My day has been consumed by something that I must speak of cryptically and as much as I want to make it better it is something that I can do nothing about.
A foster child in my town is in crisis and I want to make it all better. I want to explain to all the people involved that child is acting out because she feels as though she is not being heard. She is trying to get the adults who control her life to say that they will not abandon her. She is screaming at them to leave her and yet that is the last thing that she needs at this point. she is tryign to get people to listen and they are not really listening, well they are listening but just to the wrong things.
She needs those adults to hold her and love her and tell her no matter what she does they will not leave her. They aren't saying that. They are tired and worn out by her behaviour. They love her but are spent by the constant pushing away, she is afraid of attachment, afraid of being loved and they are at the end of their rope. Like most kids with attachment issues she is a master manipulator and is doing an excellent job at winning over people outside her home and convincing them that she is poor and mistreated.
Tragically they (the guardians) are controlled by the system and the system has to investigate the situation. I am unsure as how it will turn out, I know what is in the child's best interest may get over looked because there is only so much people can handle.
I want to make it all better but I am helpless in the situation. I have said my piece to those who would listen and now I have to sit back and watch.... it is very hard to do!
A foster child in my town is in crisis and I want to make it all better. I want to explain to all the people involved that child is acting out because she feels as though she is not being heard. She is trying to get the adults who control her life to say that they will not abandon her. She is screaming at them to leave her and yet that is the last thing that she needs at this point. she is tryign to get people to listen and they are not really listening, well they are listening but just to the wrong things.
She needs those adults to hold her and love her and tell her no matter what she does they will not leave her. They aren't saying that. They are tired and worn out by her behaviour. They love her but are spent by the constant pushing away, she is afraid of attachment, afraid of being loved and they are at the end of their rope. Like most kids with attachment issues she is a master manipulator and is doing an excellent job at winning over people outside her home and convincing them that she is poor and mistreated.
Tragically they (the guardians) are controlled by the system and the system has to investigate the situation. I am unsure as how it will turn out, I know what is in the child's best interest may get over looked because there is only so much people can handle.
I want to make it all better but I am helpless in the situation. I have said my piece to those who would listen and now I have to sit back and watch.... it is very hard to do!
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