Thursday, February 11, 2010

Still Fuming

Calvin and I talked about the timeline project last night. I sat him down and showed him the sheet and talked about what we could answer and that his teacher's suggestion was that he find the answer for when those things would normally happen for kids. He was star and came up with some other options, like doing it about and animal instead. I asked him how he would fgeel being in class while everyone else did it, he said sad. Right then, case closed, you are so not doing this.

I fumed a while longer at the teacher's complete lack of thought and then wrote the following in his agenda, I think she might get the point...

Dear Ms. Caring and Sensitive

Given that Calvin's mental well-being is far more important to me than his grade in math he will not be participating in upcoming timeline project. Calvin feels that it will make him feel sad. Please let me know all of the dates when you will be working on this project so that I can pick him up from school at the appopriate time so that he does not have to feel  triggered by the work the class is doing.


We'll see what happens, I'll keep you posted.


GB's Mom said...

What a great note to the teacher! So polite and tactful. I don't think I could have hidden my feelings as well as you did. Good Job! Hopefully the clueless teacher will get the message. :)

Megan said...

As I am reading this I am so appauled at this teacher! Way to stick to your guns and advocate for you kids! Good luck!

BT said...

That's a good letter. I'll be curious to hear how well the teacher does in informing you of exactly when the class will be working on this. She should be able to do that, right? because of having her plans all worked out?

J. said...

polite and tactful was hard, trust me!. I talked to the morning teacher this am and made it very clear he would not be in that classroom for any portion of the work. She understood, let's see if she can get the point across to the teacher who assigend the work. 6 other families have complained as well!

Jennie said...

replying to your comment:two reasons I won't put Aspie Boy and Maren together so Sissy can have the girls room:
1. Aspie Boy absolutely has to have a quiet space to himself to unwind. His stimming is pretty bad some times. Plus, he hates that wonder girl is capable and smart and he hits in his anger.

2. It wouldn't be fair to wonder girl to move her, she's not the one that's been horrendous or impaired or detrimental to others. In her 5 year old mind, it would be a punishment to have to deal with Sissy OR Aspie Boy, a punishment she didn't deserve because she's faultless in all of this.

3. Put her in our room is out. We just spent the last three months helping her migrate back to her room and out of our room because she couldn't be in her room alone with Sissy and because the trauma has caused many nightmares and sleeplessness.

Shauna said...

Way to go Mama Bear.